Control as a Core Issue - General Meeting facilitated by Kim and Denice
General Discussion Meetings provide a safe place where people can share their feelings and experiences, get support from their peers, and learn from others’ perspectives. The meetings have an open discussion format and are attended by anyone with a connection to adoption or foster care, including adult adoptees, birth parents, siblings, and adoptive parents, those that have experienced foster or kinship care, or DNA discoveries such as misattributed parentage or donor conception. Professionals are also welcome to come and learn from the shared perspectives of the constellation members.
While most of our General Discussion Meetings have an open discussion format, the October 12 meeting will have a special topic, "Control as a Core Issue." All those touched by adoption are impacted by a loss of control. Adoptive parents have lost control over when, how and whom to parent. Birth parents often report feeling powerless or manipulated by the system. Adoptees have no say in where they are placed and what information is disclosed or kept from them. What impacts does this loss of control have long term? How do we move beyond this loss of control and become active, empowered, and resilient? Join us for this important topic. Space is limited to maintain the ability of those registered to participate in the discussion. Our special topic meetings are very popular and frequently have a waiting list.
Why are these groups needed?
We believe adoption is a complex, lifelong, and intergenerational journey for all those whose lives are impacted by it. These meetings connect and empower individuals impacted by adoption, kinship, foster care, and DNA Discoveries and provide a source of healing, understanding, and learning. Recognizing that a unified voice is a strong voice, we advocate for truth and honesty on behalf of adoptees, who wonder where they came from and why they were placed for adoption; for birth families, who have never forgotten the child; and for adoptive families, who deserve to have their questions addressed honestly. We recognize that everyone has a right to know their genetic history. By bringing these groups together, we learn from the experiences of each other and have the opportunity to explore and process our own journeys.
What is the scope of this group?
This peer discussion and support group is not meant to replace conventional therapy, but rather serve as additional support on your personal journey to integrate your experience. The focus of this group is the emotional aspects of our journeys. For those involved in the process of search, one on one guidance and support as well as technical expertise and assistance are available through our Search & DNA Assistance Program.
These are virtual meetings led by trained, volunteer facilitators using the Zoom platform (which can be accessed through a home computer/laptop, tablet, or mobile phone) and will require an internet connection or phone data connection. Pre-registration is required and can be completed by finding the link for the meeting on our calendar and following the prompts for registration. There are five opportunities to participate in a meeting each month. Dates and times can be found on our calendar: https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/news-events/our-calendar.html