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External Articles Shared on Social Media

Below is a list of articles, blogs, videos and podcasts recently shared by Adoption Network Cleveland on our social media. This content has been created by individuals outside of our organization and as such is their intellectual property and opinions. Click on the date to access the content.

  • Adoption starts with loss and trauma. For many adoptees, becoming parents themselves can become a trigger for that past trauma. How do you ensure that generational trauma isn't passed on to your children? What strategies have you used that were successful?

  • Separated since birth, mother and son make Memorial Day meeting in Cincinnati. Trevor Thomas, an Air Force service member for 18 years, says he’s been looking for his biological mother for nearly two decades.

  • The recording from our April 16, 2021 partnership with the OLLIE Foundation presenting Dr. Gabor Maté on the connection between relinquishment, adoption and addiction is now available. Hear singer-songwriter, author and adoptee advocate, Zara Phillips in conversation with world-leading trauma and addiction expert, Dr. Gabor Maté on The Trauma of Relinquishment - Adoption, Addiction and Beyond.

    Presented in partnership with The OLLIE Foundation -
    and Adoption Network Cleveland - https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/

    Copyright of this video belongs to Dr. Gabor Maté - https://drgabormate.com/

  • Everyone at Adoption Network Cleveland is so excited for the recent public release of David Bynam's documentary "From a Place Called Love: My Adoption Journey." We were lucky enough to be a small part in David's efforts, hosting a prescreening in 2020 as part of our Monday Evening Series. David's documentary shares his journey as an adoptee searching for birth family. It can be viewed on Apple TV, Google Play, Vudu and, beginning July 1, for free on Tubi.

    This recent article in "This Week: Community News" shares an interview with David and with our own Traci Onders, who provided Search Assistance for David during his search.

  • Happy International Family Equality Day (May 2, 2021) from Adoption Network Cleveland. We recognize and celebrate all families today and every day. We have compiled a list of local and national resources for LGBTQ+ families:

  • Keegan-Michael Key is opening up about how his adoption experience has shaped him into the person he is today. The Emmy-winning comedian gets deep about his fear of being "abandoned again."

    "I have a people-pleasing issue. I do think it comes from being adopted," Key continues. "I think people who are adopted have this kind of situation where you go, 'I'm going to do everything everybody else tells me, because I don't want to get abandoned again.' I think that happens to people."

  • Although their story starts as a dark and sad one, it has grown into a beautiful story of reunion. Tito and his birth mom, Rachel, crossed paths numerous times throughout Tito's life, but only now are able to connect as mother and son. Their family's journey is a tale of Boston history.

  • Did you have an image or picture of what your parent/child was like and did it match with the reality of them in reunion? In Ross Martin's most recent blog, he shares that he had an image in his mind of his birth mom, along with ideas about how she thought and acted. For the most part, they turned out to be incorrect.

  • Eve Wiley, advocate for laws surrounding fertility fraud, is in front of Texas lawmakers again, pressing them to pass a bill giving victims more time to file complaints about fertility-doctor misbehavior with the Texas Medical Board. Eve spoke with us as part of our Monday Evening Speaker Series about fertility fraud and her personal story. A recording of her presentation can be viewed on our YouTube Channel at @AdoptionNetCle.

  • Greg Luce of Adoptee Rights Law, asked other adult adoptees what they felt were examples of myths that are used to demonize or demean adult adoptees. He chose his top 5 with insight from those who responded.

  • Adoption experts advise a full, honest disclosure of an adopted child’s origin story. This recommendation is based on years of research documenting the negative effects of secrecy on adopted individuals. Psychologists emphasize the long-term benefits trust builds between parents and their children, as well as the need adopted individuals have to know the truth about their origins in order to fully understand themselves and have healthy and meaningful relationships.

  • On this episode of the Adoptees On podcast, Dr. Susan Branco shares information about her case study of the Colombian Adoption House which includes firsthand experiences of Colombian adoptees and what happens when they find out their adoption was illicit or black-market. Her passion for family preservation is evident as she discusses systemic problems in the adoption industry.

  • In her most recent blog post, April Dinwoodie writes, "Both the pandemic and the racially motivated murders of Black and Brown persons have been particularly painful to me as I think about the Black family members that I was separated from. Each time I hear the statistics that more Black and Brown persons are dying due to Covid-19 and every time there is an innocent Black/Brown person murdered I can’t help but wonder if all of these losses of our Black and Brown brothers and sister are actually my Black and Brown brothers and sisters. I wonder if I will lose members of my family of origin before I find them." Read part 5 of April's series "How to Love a Transracially Adopted Person."

  • On "The Adoptee Next Door" podcast, Angela speaks with adoptee Nancee Winslow, about nature vs. nurture, reuniting with birth family members, and adoptees feeling the need to prove they are "well-adjusted" with their adoption. Nancee shares a powerful story about the moment she told her 4-year-old son that she was adopted and his emotional reaction.

  • Ten things adoptees want their natural parents to know about reunion.
    Thank you to @rossjohnmartin for this absolutely beautiful perspective on the complexities of reunion and relationships with birthparents.

  • Many Asian adoptees say they feel left out of the national conversation about anti-Asian racism because they don't feel like they belong in either the Asian American community or white America.

  • Steve Inskeep, co-host of NPR’s “Morning Edition” and “Up First,” is an adoptee and an adoptive father. He recently shared an opinion piece in the New York Times that rings true for many in the adoption community. "I am angry that for 50 years, my state (Indiana) denied me the story of how I came to live on this earth. Strangers hid part of me from myself. While I now have the privilege of knowing my information, many people’s stories are still hidden. About 2 percent of U.S. residents — roughly six million people — are adoptees, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures. A majority were adopted domestically, with records frequently sealed, especially for older adoptees."

  • Nicole Chung, author of the memoir "All You Can Ever Know" and a transracial adoptee writes, "Over the years, I’ve talked with so many other transracial adoptees who, like me, have undertaken the task of asking, sometimes begging our adoptive relatives to acknowledge our experiences; to stand with us; to challenge the racism endemic in our society as well as our own families and communities. Now, in this moment, I hope that every white parent of an Asian child is paying attention to the rise in anti-Asian hate. I hope that white people with Asian family members recognize and internalize the fact that no amount of love, good intentions, assimilation, or proximity to whiteness will protect their loved ones from racism."

    Read the article by clicking on the date.

  • "Why I Took a Vow of Celibacy - In my life, sex and love have been twisted up with childhood trauma. Time for a break."

    Paula McLain was born in Fresno, California in 1965. After being abandoned by both parents, she and her two sisters became wards of the California Court System, moving in and out of various foster homes for fourteen years. Her experience was far from perfect, and in a new essay, she shares a tiny window of that experience and how it has shadowed her life. Please note this piece deals with hard issues including child sexual assault, abuse, and trauma. But it is worth the read.

    Paula McLain is the author of the novel “The Paris Wife.” Her new novel, “When the Stars Go Dark,” will be published in April.

  • Fertility Fraud: There are four states that have passed legislation in recent years to outlaw doctors using their own sperm to impregnate patients without their consent. Ohio is working on becoming the fifth with Ohio House Bill 64, with Ohio Representative Jena Powell as the primary sponsor. Carrie Lauterbach shares her story in a recent WCPO Cincinnati interview. Carrie recently joined Adoption Network Cleveland’s Public Policy Committee, which is taking an active stance in supporting the legislation. Betsie, our ED, was also interviewed for the piece and expressed why this legislation is so needed.

    View the WCPO video segment and read the article by clicking on the date above.

  • In this podcast episode, the Disclassified Adoptee shares the story of the circumstances that led to her adoption. She walks through the narratives shared with her by both her first family and her adoptive family and how her adoption records offered unique insight to these stories. Content Warning: birth, birth trauma, separation, infertility, brief mentions of sexual assault.

  • "Finding out I had 600 half-siblings sent me on a quest to end sperm donor anonymity | CBC Documentaries"
    600 half-siblings! Unfortunately, it looks like this show isn't available for viewing in the US yet, however, it does make us even more excited to host Eve Wiley and hear her presentation on fertility fraud. Eve will be with us as part of our Monday Evening Speaker Series on February 22 at 8 pm ET. Find out more and register: https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/news-events/our-calendar.html/event/2021/02/22/monday-evening-speaker-series-with-eve-wiley/321560

  • As one looks around the room at support groups for individuals impacted by adoption and DNA surprises, one doesn't see a lot of male faces. Granted, there are a few, but the majority of individuals seeking a community of support are women. Surely men would benefit from hearing other perspectives and a community to support them in their journey. So why don't men want to talk about it?

  • When Star Trek: Voyager and Orange is the New Black star Kate Mulgrew got pregnant as a young actress, she described herself as “single, alone and flooded with terror.” Mulgrew felt strongly that relinquishing her child and allowing her to be adopted was “the only choice I could make.” Over the years, few people understood the pain of her choice, except for her now ex-husband, Tim Hagan (well-known Cuyahoga County politician). Twenty-two years after her daughter’s birth and relinquishment, Mulgrew and her daughter, Danielle, reunited after years of searching for each other. Mulgrew described their relationship and reunion saying, “there is not enough time to make up for it, only enough time to love.” Learn more about their journey: http://ow.ly/wEVf50DodBP
    (Artwork by Ariana Farsaii, Case Western University student)

  • The Fostering Stable Housing Opportunities Act mandates federal agencies set aside vouchers for housing for youths who age out of the system so that they no longer face homelessness. Montgomery County, Ohio, helped push for this national foster care law, which was passed as part of the CARES Act.

  • Faced with an opportunity to take in two of her grandchildren years back, Frieda Hardy of Zanesville didn't think twice about becoming a kinship caregiver. It is a similar concept to foster parenting but provides very little financial aid. There are some non-governmental entities that aim to compensate for what little funds kinship caregivers are provided from the state, but it's nominal to what a certified foster parent receives. Just before the end of the year, Ohio Gov. Mike DeWine signed an executive order that will guarantee direct payments to non-foster parent families who take in children under children's services supervision beginning June 1.

  • We are so excited to see this cover review in the New York Times Book Review! American Baby by Gabrielle Glaser illustrates the history of adoption in our country through the story of one family and beyond. It weaves a rich tapestry of history, culture, religion, family, connection, place, and adoption, and is sure to bring a deeper understanding of what many adoptees have lived into the mainstream in a whole new way.

  • "Choosing to adopt a child of a different race should be a very conscious decision. Parents will need to be intentional about embracing opportunities and challenges that are associated with raising a child of another race." Pepperdine Online shares key steps adoptive parents should take to "Empower Adopted Children of Color in the Face of Racism and Discrimination."

  • Any surprise can be traumatic, but a DNA surprise raises one of life’s most fundamental questions: Who am I? Your very identity is made up of your memories, your shared stories, and experiences with family and friends. When you find out that something is not true, or not exactly true, it is a major shock to your emotional system. Psychologist Greg Markway talks to Severance Magazine about the trauma that can be caused by unexpected DNA findings.

  • Ohio Unveils Limited Plan to Pay Relatives Caring for Kids - Advocates for Ohio adults caring for related children in their custody insist a new law that raises payments for such caregivers doesn't go far enough, signaling that achievement of a solution that satisfies all parties isn't yet in hand.

  • In this episode of The Adoptee Next Door podcast, Angela Tucker speaks with Alex, a 17-year-old transgender woman, to discuss adoption, the intersections of LGBTQ culture, and how quarantine provided a silver lining for Alex's transition period.

  • Even though Leah grew up in a multiracial family of transracial adoptees with parents that espoused diversity, African American heritage, anti-racism, and tolerance, she self-describes herself as "hellbent on being seen as fully white." In this article, she talks about the journey that led her to that place of self-loathing, and what has happened since she became a mother herself.

  • The Irish government is to apologise after an investigation found an "appalling level of infant mortality" in the country's mother-and-baby homes. Established in the 19th and 20th Centuries, the institutions housed women and girls who became pregnant outside marriage. The article also notes that the mothers did not receive the level of care and support they needed, however it falls short from acknowledging abuse and forced adoption.

  • We are pleased to share a podcast today featuring our former coworker, Linda, who shared her experience as an adoptive parent in an open adoption during a recent episode of The Long View Podcast.

    "Linda is an adoptive mom who found herself swimming upstream against societal norms. In 1992, Linda was chosen to be mom to her son by his first mother. That very first word of that very first phone conversation — “hello” — led Linda to see her son's first mother as a real person, facing a real-life heartbreaking challenge, and immediately Linda’s heart was opened. The power of the ensuing and enduring relationships is being documented in a book to inspire others. Linda has been a speaker and writer about open adoption over the last twenty years and was honored as an Angel in Adoption by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute in 2012. "

  • Two of our favorites join together to address the complex issues adoptees face when dealing with the holidays - Leslie Johnson, MFT and Haley Radke of the podcast Adoptees On. This episode is a must!

    "The holiday season is here and that means we get to ask one of our favourite adoptee therapists, Lesli A. Johnson, MFT, your questions! We can be juggling multiple families, boundary issues, estrangement and loneliness, not to mention the global pandemic. Lesli and Haley talk through some challenging situations and try to help you figure out what YOU want out of this season."

  • For children who are in foster care, or who have been adopted, the holiday season can be difficult. There are lots of feelings of loss, grief, and sadness. These emotions can be all-consuming. This episode of "The Honestly Adoption" podcasts gives parents practical steps to help their children cope with grief during the holidays.

  • Holidays and birthdays can be extremely difficult days for birthparents. Ashley and Kelsey, hosts of the Twisted Sisterhood podcast (a podcast for birthmoms), dive into discussion about how our bodies hold trauma around these milestones, and how it affects many birthmoms.

  • Adoption: The Long View Podcast, Episode 9
    Dr. Abbie Goldberg has spent 15 years studying openness in adoption and the impacts on adoptive families. In this recent episode, Lori Holden, host of "The Long View" podcast features an interview with Dr. Goldberg. Listen in as she tells us how families tend to change over time regarding openness, how their openness impacts their children, the role of adoption agencies in setting expectations on both sides, and other wisdom gleaned from 15 years of following adoptive families.