Rejection and Moving Beyond It - General Meeting facilitated by Dottie and Estes
General Discussion Meetings provide a safe place where people can share their feelings and experiences, get support from their peers, and learn from others’ perspectives. The meetings have an open discussion format and are attended by anyone with a connection to adoption or foster care, including adult adoptees, birth parents, siblings, and adoptive parents, those that have experienced foster or kinship care, or DNA discoveries such as misattributed parentage or donor conception. Professionals are also welcome to come and learn from the shared perspectives of the constellation members.
While most of our General Discussion Meetings have an open discussion format, the July 21 meeting will have a special topic, "Rejection & Moving Beyond It." Rejection is a core issue of adoption. Adoptive parents might feel rejected by their own families for their choice to adopt or might feel rejected if their adopted son or daughter expresses interest in birth family. Birth parents might feel rejected by their families for the pregnancy or for not parenting. Adoptees might see their placement as a rejection from the birth family. Searching for someone who is disconnected through adoption might uncover someone who is not ready to be found. Rejection and the fear of rejection can influence in profound ways. Join us as we discuss the impact of rejection and explore ways to move beyond it. Space is limited to maintain the ability of those registered to participate in the discussion. Our special topic meetings are very popular and frequently have a waiting list.
Why are these groups needed?
We believe adoption is a complex, lifelong, and intergenerational journey for all those whose lives are impacted by it. These meetings connect and empower individuals impacted by adoption, kinship, foster care, and DNA Discoveries and provide a source of healing, understanding, and learning. Recognizing that a unified voice is a strong voice, we advocate for truth and honesty on behalf of adoptees, who wonder where they came from and why they were placed for adoption; for birth families, who have never forgotten the child; and for adoptive families, who deserve to have their questions addressed honestly. We recognize that everyone has a right to know their genetic history. By bringing these groups together, we learn from the experiences of each other and have the opportunity to explore and process our own journeys.
What is the scope of this group?
This peer discussion and support group is not meant to replace conventional therapy, but rather serve as additional support on your personal journey to integrate your experience. The focus of this group is the emotional aspects of our journeys. For those involved in the process of search, one on one guidance and support as well as technical expertise and assistance are available through our Search & DNA Assistance Program.
These are virtual meetings led by trained, volunteer facilitators using the Zoom platform (which can be accessed through a home computer/laptop, tablet, or mobile phone) and will require an internet connection or phone data connection. Pre-registration is required and can be completed by finding the link for the meeting on our calendar and following the prompts for registration. There are five opportunities to participate in a meeting each month. Dates and times can be found on our calendar: https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/news-events/our-calendar.html