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Honoring Birth Mothers

Sunday, May 2, 2021

Since 1993, Adoption Network Cleveland has hosted a Birth Mother’s Day ceremony on the day before Mother’s Day. The ceremony, led by birth mothers, recognizes and honors all women whose children were placed for adoption. Due to COVID-19 safety precautions, the 2021 Birth Mother’s Day ceremony has transformed into a week-long, virtual sharing of birth mothers’ art, songs, photos, poetry, and reflections. From May 2nd to Birth Mother’s Day on May 8th, we will be posting creative works and resources, commemorating the unique birth mother experience.  

Language can evoke powerful feelings and the terms we are comfortable with may change for us throughout our journeys, for those impacted, and for the community at large. We recognize that individuals may have specific preferences toward using birth mother, first mother, mother, natural mother, mother of origin, or other similar terms. As an organization, we have chosen to use the term birth mother in our writing to identify parents to children now being raised by others. We do so with the utmost respect for the sake of brevity in written stories.

Today's thought, a poem submitted by a birth mother.

Melissa Morgan


Monday, May 3, 2021

Selimah Nemoy

This Mother’s Day 2021 represents the 30th anniversary of finding my daughter whom I was forced to give up for adoption when I was a teenager in 1967. After five months of exile at the Los Angeles Florence Crittenton Home, I was released with these parting words from the Home’s director:  

“Just go home and pretend it never happened.” 

Not likely. 

Read the entire excerpt on our blog at: www.adoptionnetwork.org/news-events/archive.html/article/2021/04/22/honoring-the-lost-and-the-found

Selimah Nemoy is the author of Since I Lost My Baby: A Memoir of Temptations, Trouble & Truth from which this article is excerpted. 

Tuesday, May 4, 2021

Sandy Rogers

I never knew if I had a boy or a girl. My decision, the only one I was allowed to make, was that if I was to surrender my child to adoption, I could not see my baby or know the gender of my baby. It would be the hardest decision of my life.  

At 27, I learned I had a son.  

Surrendering my son was the real sacrifice for love. 


Read the full story on our blog at https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/news-events/archive.html/article/2021/04/22/sacrifice-for-love  

Sandy is a birth mother who surrendered her only child to adoption in 1964. She is an advocate for adoption reform and, in 1985, helped create a new law in Kentucky that allowed adult adoptees to petition the courts for their original birth certificates.

Wednesday, May 5, 2021

Leslie Pate MacKinnon

Teddy is circa 1948. I received him when I was one year old. The side-snap newborn tee-shirt was purchased the night I delivered my son, alone at home. I was 19.  There were a couple of tiny undershirts in a pack. My baby was taken away the next morning without a word spoken to me, wearing one of the little shirts.  The other one became a familiar wrapper for Teddy. I look at him every day and remember. 

Leslie Pate Mackinnon, LCSW, is a seasoned and well-respected therapist in the adoption community who works with individuals, families, and couples and runs several groups. In addition to her general practice, she specializes in working with individuals and families conceived through adoption and third-party reproduction. She is also a birth mother.



Thursday, May 6

When the Healing Starts, Written & Performed By Susan Hagan

Susan is a friend and advocate for birth mothers, and has performed at past Birth Mother's Day Ceremonies.



Friday, May 7, 2021

Kerri Nickoletti

I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in September of 1989. I was 17, about to turn 18.

I knew from the moment I gave birth to her, that I wanted her to have more than just me. She deserved a mom & a dad! I chose adoption for her, so she could potentially have a mom and a dad. 

I was reunited with her in June of 2018. That was one of the absolute best days of my life. 

We connected right away. Here we are almost three years after being reunited, I am so in love with her. We are very much one and the same. She’s the mom of three fantastic girls who call me Mimi. 

I have no regrets. My daughter was raised by two incredible people who adored her. She has four siblings...three of whom were also adopted. 

I have two sons & now all three of my amazing kids are together & living life as if they have been together all along.

This picture is from the day we were reunited in July of 2018.



Saturday, May 8, 2021

Jeanne Hood

I know there are some people who might ask… when they hear the words ‘Birth Mother’s Day’… 

what does that mean? What is Birth Mother’s Day? Well, it is a day to remember and to honor the experience of birth mothers everywhere.

For many birth mothers, Mother’s Day can be one of the most challenging days of the year.  

Even those of us who had other children and raised them still feel an emptiness in our hearts for our “other” child.

Read Jeanne's full blog on Birth Mother's Day at https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/news-events/archive.html/article/2021/04/22/birth-mother-s-day



Resources for Birth Mothers

Adoption Network Cleveland Programs

General Discussion Meetings are support and discussion opportunities for all adult adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, siblings, and anyone interested in the lifelong journey of adoption.

Search Assistance Program Adoption Network Cleveland successfully helps adult adoptees, birth parents, siblings, and extended families find one another. We have over 31 years of experience providing individualized support and guidance during the search and beyond.

Birth Mother Support Group provides a safe and supportive environment to help with the complexities that are often part of the adoption experience. The meetings are open to birth mothers connected by the lifelong journey of adoption and are an opportunity for birth mothers to encourage one another in their healing process through discussion and interaction.


Online Resources

Concerned United Birthparents (CUB): Only national organization focused on birthparents; their experiences, healing, and wisdom. CUB serves all those touched by adoption and all who are concerned about adoption issues, with a focus on birth parents. 

Out of the Shadows: Every adoption begins with one woman, her child, and a decision. That woman is redefined in this film. Her misunderstood grief and bravery are brought Out of the Shadows. The women in this film embody a new story of the birth mom. One that outshines the past with its beauty, freedom, and dignity.

Pact Informational Resources for Birth Parents: Provides links to blogs, book recommendations, and information on navigating open adoption.


Adoption Competent Therapists for Members of the Constellation

Adoptee - Therapist Directory: Directory of licensed U.S. mental health professionals who identify as adoptees and work with adoptees/families in a variety of settings.

Screening Questions When Seeking an Adoption Competent Therapist

Adoption Trauma Therapists You Need to Know: A list of adoption competent therapist suggestions by state by Iamadopted.net.

Seeking Counsel: An expert panel in mental health shares wisdom of the process to identify an adoption competent therapist that is a good fit.

Adoption Network may be able to make a referral for an adoption competent therapist in Ohio. Please contact Traci Onders at traci.onders@adoptionnetwork.org or (216) 482-2323.



Birthbond: Reunions Between Birthparents and Adoptees, What Happens After: Judith S. Gediman and Linda P. Brown, 1991: Essential reading for anyone involved in an adoption reunion. Helps the reader understand the emotions involved in the post-reunion experience.

Birthright: the Guide to Search and Reunion: Jean Strauss, 1994: Acclaimed documentary filmmaker shares her own search story along with dozens of others. Also packed with important reference sources.

The Girls Who Went Away: Ann Fessler, 2006: Birthmothers share their stories in their own words. A searing and important glimpse of a long over-looked social history, bringing to the page the lifelong emotions common to many birthmothers.

Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency: Sharon Kaplan Roszia & Allison Davis Maxon, 2019: A comprehensive guide to promoting understanding and healing in adoption, foster care, kinship families, and third-party reproduction.

Lost and Found: A Memoir of Mothers: Kate St. Vincent Vogl, 2009: Touching, true story of an adoptee who is found by her birth mother when she least expected it.

Surrendered Child: A Birthmother’s Journey: Karen Salyer McElmurray, 2004: “With unflinching honesty, McElmurray recounts both the painful surrendering and the surprise rediscovery of her son, juxtaposed with her portrayal of her own mother, who could not provide the love she needed. The dramatic result is a story of birthright lost and found and an exploration of the meaning of motherhood itself.”



Twisted Sisterhood: A podcast for birth moms, by birth moms. Ashley Mitchell and Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard have a decade between their adoption placements. They address raw and real emotions and experiences and have other birth mom guests on the show join in on the conversation. (This podcast link is to Spotify, however, episodes from the Twisted Sister podcast are available on multiple platforms.)


This is by no means an exhaustive list. Do you have a great resource for birth mothers or birth fathers that we should know about? Please share it by emailing us at tammy.willet@adoptionnetwork.org